Hands off my shoes!

I’m sure that a lot of you can relate to this…

One fine day, someone close to you decided to dish some “good” advice to you. In my instance, it is with regards to my relationship. Basically, what I should and shouldn’t allow my partner to do. Actually I have heard this lot of times before and I honestly do not need another mother in my life.

One is already more than enough.

I know that friends meant well most of the time, so I normally will just pretend to be listening and nod my head with some “mmm” and “yes ah?” every once in a while.

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The truth is that we have to make our own mistakes in order to learn from them.

Did I listen to mom when she told me not to get a tattoo?

Nope.

Do I regret having this permanent thing plastered on the small of my back now and most probably forever?

Well, uhm, hmm, well, yeah, on occasions.

If I could turn back time and undo it, will I?

Nah. Maybe I’ll just get it somewhere else less visible.

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Each one of us has to be out there taking chances, following our hearts and at the end of the day, if things didn’t work out, at least we know that we’ve been down that road before and have no regrets.

No what ifs.

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I do not like people telling me what to and not to do in my life. In fact, I have been quite rebellious during my younger days: Going out clubbing until the break of dawn 2-3 nights every weekend, having 6 piercings on 1 ear and 2 on the other, getting a belly ring, a tattoo, etc. But I have to admit that I’ve never smoked or done drugs before even though some of the people around me did.

I must admit that at times I do wonder what it feels like to take an E but then I guess I was just to chicken to dabble into that kind of stuff.

I’m glad that I’m over all that now. In fact, nowadays I would rather sleep than go out clubbing with my friends and I’ve let go of all of my ear piercings albeit one on each ear.

When I look at the scars, I am reminded of my vibrant past and the memories never cease to make me smile.

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Anyway, fast-forward to today, I still don’t like people teaching me how to lead my life. Even though I know well enough that they meant more good than harm.

I give a lot of freedom to my bf and I put 100% of my trust in him as I expect the same in return. I also know that if a guy wants to cheat, he will do it no matter how his gf tries to control him. In fact, the more stifling the relationship is, the harder the partner will struggle to break free.

But one thing with guys I can’t deny is that when you are too nice to them, they will take things for granted. Maybe they didn’t mean to do it on purpose, or maybe they could have just suddenly developed a mild case of Alzheimer’s.

So every once in a while, we have to tug on that chain a bit.

Not too hard, but just hard enough to remind them who’s the boss.

"The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases. Each of us carries his own unique life form - which cannot be used by any other." - Carl Jung

Never bossy enough,