We meet someone whom we thought was perfect in almost every sense except one tiny little bit. Well, that was what we thought in the first place anyway. But as time passes by, this tiny problem blows up to its original proportion and then we sit there, asking ourselves, "Is this what I want to live with for the rest of my life?"
Come on, let's face it, we're all selfish creatures who think highly of ourselves and will be, most, if not all of the time, unwilling to settle for anything but the best.
After all, it's not like the other party is going to blissfully happy if her partner is in a permanent state of misery. Maybe it'll look like a cruel decision at the beginning but trust me, it's for the best.
You love him enough to revamp yourself on top of accepting him for who he is, and yet, he doesn't think that you'll ever be good enough for him.
You start by being upset at first, bawling your eyes out and asking yourself how could your man be so cruel after all that both of you have been through. Deep inside, you hope that he'll wake up one morning and realize that he cannot live without you. Then both of you will be go off riding a horse into the sunset and live happily ever after.
Like that will ever happen.
As days turn into weeks, and weeks into months, it suddenly dawned upon you that he's never gonna come running back into your arms. After awhile, you get REALLY pissed off at this person who has wasted [fill in the no. of years here]
Endless nights of crying and going through the past scenarios in your head over and over again, you finally realize that enough is enough and decided to get on with your life.
Hmm... Wouldn't it be much easier to skip all the initial steps and just go straight to the final step since the end result is gonna be the same?
But I guess most of us have to go through this process first in order to heal. And this would be definitely a much better option compared to going for rebound relationships where more hearts might get broken as a result of this approach.
From my individual experience, I know that often, there's a price to pay for listening to your heart instead of your head.
So if things don't work out, I personally prefer to convince myself that the relationship was doomed from the beginning by going through all our fights and his annoying habits in my head on rerun mode. And because I keep reminding myself that he's not The One, it makes it easier for me to let go.
I guess sometimes we just have to be cruel to be kind.
"I just broke up with someone and the last thing she said to me was 'You'll never find anyone like me again!' I'm thinking 'I should hope not! If I don't want you, why would I want someone like you?'" - Author Unknown
It ain't over til
the fat lady sings,
