You make me better

During my single heydays, I used to ask myself why I was still single and if there was something about me that repel the guys around me.

I don’t have BO

I don’t have a breath that smells like rotten tomatoes

Neither do I walk around in a Hunchback of Notre Dame posture nor do I look anything like him

I have yet to weigh more than my refrigerator

As time passes by, I have also learned to accept the fact that I may not be anywhere near the following in this lifetime:

As pretty as Singaporean blogger Dawn Yang

As skinny as Kate Moss

Has a body to die for like J.Lo

Call me old-fashioned but I still think that beauty exudes from the inside. I know, I know it sounds like a consolation statement coming out from the mouth of someone who doesn’t look like Jessica Alba but what’s the point of looking drop-dead gorgeous when behind closed doors you are a backstabbing, conniving & pretentious b*tch? After all, beauty fades with time.

Although nowadays with Botox and cosmetic surgeries it seems that we humans are in fact capable of stopping time.

And when my man entered my life, he made me realize that I may not be as good as I thought I was. I’m not saying that I initially thought that I was flawless but he actually made me see so much of my imperfections (in terms of attitude, of course, WHAT WERE YOU THINKING???) that it actually bowled me over.

By that time, I was already starting to doubt “How can someone possibly ever want to spend the rest of his life with me?”

The thing is that I have lived independently for a long time and even when I was in relationships, most of the time; my ex-bfs just let me be, well, me. I do what I like, say what’s on my mind, behave the way I want, etc.

In summary, I am a selfish being.

And I always hold the belief that we should accept the person we love for who he is instead of trying to change him into who we want him to be. That’s why when he came into my life; I found it difficult to accept that he was trying to change me until one day, when we were arguing about one of my antics, he said “Do you think that I go around complaining about others? I only do it because I truly care about you.” (The actual truth is that he does complain a lot but I’ve also learned when to talk & when to shut up)

So you might think after the incident I would have miraculously transformed overnight and we would have lived happily ever after in the magical castle. Let me tell you that you thought WRONG because me being the stubborn-headed pig is still struggling to change her habits.

But then I looked around and realized that there are a lot of people out there who are, well, normal human beings, just like you, me & Dupree; and they seem to thrive in their relationships so I don’t see why I can’t do the same. (How kiasu!)

So I guess no matter how much I hate to change, I have to start learning how to embrace it for my own sake, for him and for our future together.

“A soul mate sometimes enters our life as someone to stir us up, to hold up the mirror so that we can see ourselves more clearly and antagonize us and make us so uncomfortable that we have to change because we can’t continue to look at the same thing because we’re looking at it clearly now." - Richard Vogt

“I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved, and the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.” - Author Unknown

She loves me for me,