What's love got to do with it?

Was discussing about relationships with someone over dinner earlier. He said that he has found the key to making a relationship last – drumroll please... Don't, you heard me right the first time, I repeat, DO NOT live in with your partner.

How ironic.

When you only see each other on an occasional basis; perhaps over a few drinks/ dinners and a movie throughout the week then the truth is that you haven’t really had the opportunity to get to know the person at all.

But when two people decide to take a big step and move in together, then it’s a completely different situation altogether. You may be able to put on a fake front for about 1 or 2 hours per day, 3 times a week but to be a great pretender throughout your entire life can be a little too tiring, don't you think?

The most common mistake that we women make is that we think we can change the men in our lives. I guess you could say that we believe in the power of love. Or should I say we believe in miracles? Are we really that naïve? Even with superpowers, I doubt that this feat is achievable.

My question is this: How can we make over someone who does not see anything wrong with himself in the first place?

Every so often we only see the things we want to see, hear only things we feel like hearing and choose to believe in things that we yearn to be true.

I am curious as to how many people out there are in their existing relationships just to “be with someone” – the truth is that some people just can’t bear with the idea of being alone. Being in a loveless relationship is, in their opinion, a much better option than being SAD - Single, Available & Desperate. But is this fair to the other party in this so-called “relationship”?

Hell, who says life is always fair?

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." – Woody Allen