She got it

Had my haircut last week.

Wanted to go back to the same stylist that I went to during my pre-CNY haircut rush (Chinese will understand this term very well) because my colleagues seemed to think that she was better than my usual stylist but coincidentally, she wasn’t working on that day.

Initially, I wanted to wait til the next day but on second thought, I changed my mind and went ahead to the saloon to put my life (read: hair) in the hands of another stylist.

If you think that by now, I’d put up some photos of my new haircut, then you are wrong. Obviously you don’t know me well enough to know that I somehow feel that the camera doesn’t do me much justice - I usually look absolutely horrendous in 98% of my photos.

That’s not to say that I look absolutely stunning in real life-lah, after all, who am I to defy the mirror?

Anyway, back to the haircut: it turned out pretty okay (like they normally do after all the blowing and products used. And more often than not, it’s next to impossible to re-create the same look at home. Hmm...I wonder why). I’m not very particular about how my hair looks as long as it doesn’t involve sacrificing my snooze time in the morning.

It got me thinking…

If you’ve always stuck with the same old stylist your whole (adult) life just because you think that he gives you an awesome haircut, what makes you think that another can’t do the same or even better than that?

I guess it’s the same with life, be it in terms of your job, your partner or even your lifestyle. Just because you enjoy it now doesn’t mean that you are obliged to be attached to it for the rest of your days.

That’s what I always remind myself when I envy those people who marry their first loves.

How would they know that their partners are the best if they have never been with another person before?

And will they ever learn how to truly appreciate the ones that they’re with since they have no other b*tchy, atrocious and inconsiderate exes to compare them with?

The same goes if you return from one of your saloon visits with a botched-up haircut. So what? It’s not like it’s permanent damage - your hair will grow back, (sadly), whether you like it or not.

It’s not like it’s a cosmetic surgery which cost you RM8,000. If you despise it so much, you always have the option of going to another stylist to fix it.

When it comes to relationships, it’s the same thing. Just because you’ve been hurt badly once, doesn’t mean that the next one who comes along will follow the footsteps of your ex (unless you’re blinded by the bling-bling or really super-duper unlucky).

It’s always good to be cautious but when the time is right, you should be prepared to let your guard down.

Allow yourself a chance to make it right this time around.

“Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problems and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.” – Anthony Robbins

Moonstruck,